Dear Asexual Reader,
While the world has become a lot more open-minded, many people still don’t know or understand everything that you’re going through, sadly. I know how tiring it is to be constantly bingoed with phrases which include but are not limited to, “You haven’t met the right person yet,” “Maybe you’re just depressed,” and, “You’re a late bloomer.” Your emotions, thoughts, and experiences are valid. Don’t let anyone else tell you that they are not. Your life is yours and yours alone. Whether you’re with someone or not, that is completely okay. There is no right or wrong way to live. If you’re still questioning matters, that’s okay too. No one has any say in how you identify yourself other than you. You are not a walking contradiction. You are not a vegetable. You are a human being. You just don’t have something that many people think is “necessary” and “normal” for a relationship—which is sexual attraction or desire, which depends on your stance within the spectrum.
There are people out there who care for you. You have friends, family, and possibly even a partner. If you don’t have a partner, and you are not aromantic, there is someone out there who will love and respect you. This person will respect you and your boundaries, and they will care for you in any and all ways. You should not and do not have to do anything that you’re not comfortable with. If your partner truly loves and values you, they should respect your levels of comfortability. “Be who you say you are. Because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind” (Dr. Seuss). You are not alone. You are a living human being. You matter. You are worthy of love in every sense of the word. You are not broken.
Sincerely to You From,
An Asexual Bi-Romantic Person
[…] If you would like more information on asexuality, check out AVEN (Asexual Visiblity Education Network). They have a lot of information on asexuality overall. Also check out our other posts like: What to do When you Have an Asexual Partner and Dear Asexual, You are NOT Broken. […]