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Rev Up Your Relationship With A Little Healthy Competition

Hi everyone, welcome back to Spotlight Wednesday, where we find out what you want to talk about and give you content that meets your needs. Many of us are still quarantining, and if it was boring in the beginning, it’s even more so 6 months later. A way to get out of that boredom is by introducing a little healthy competition into the mix. Whether it’s as simple as quizzing each other on US presidents or state capitals, or setting up an elaborate board game, there are so many ways you can fire up, get your minds moving, and get playing.

-Amanda, Social Media Coordinator,

Jessica Padykula NOVEMBER 22, 2011

If your relationship needs a jump-start to get the sparks flying again, why not try some friendly competition? While it may sound unromantic, playing a game or sport against your guy could spice things up and have a positive effect on your relationship.

Play time

Do couples who play together stay together? According to a 2009 study conducted by Kelton Research, they at least want to give that theory a try. Eighty percent of respondents said they would enjoy playing video games with their significant other, with the biggest allure for 61 percent being the fact that video gaming is something a couple can do together.

A survey conducted by MSNBC found that 55 percent of respondents already do play video games with their partner, while almost 30 percent wish they did. But don’t even think about letting your partner win. Nearly 70 percent of the Kelton Research survey’s respondents admitted that they’d rather win than let their date take top prize, but it’s the ladies who are fiercer competitors. More than 80 percent of women said they compete to beat their date, compared to 56 percent of men. Game on!

Competitive balance

When it comes to competing, we all know some couples who say they never fight. Ever. We also know couples who are so competitive that every argument with their spouse or partner, no matter how trivial, turns into an epic battle complete with yelling, screaming and doors that end up off their hinges from being slammed so much.

Neither of these scenarios is ultimately ideal, but it is healthy to strike the right balance where competition is concerned. Never fighting can mean there is a lack of passion. Too much obsessing over who gets the last word can get old fast (and ruin any hope of long-term happiness), but get the level just right and you have a recipe for relationship success.

Get your game on

This is where games come in. Games by their nature involve pitting yourself against an opponent, and playing to win. Whether you opt for a game of one-on-one at the basketball court, immerse yourself in Mario Kart or dust off the Scrabble board, there are countless ways to inject some competitive spirit into your love life.

Ample research also suggests that couples who work out together have better sex, and like working out, competing with someone raises your heart rate and sends adrenaline coursing through your veins. It’s not hard to see how both activities – working out and playing games together – could improve life in the bedroom and beyond.

Whatever your gaming pleasure, playing to win against your significant other should help fuel your competitive fire – and ideally heat up your relationship.

This article was originally posted here.

Addendum: Competitiveness is sometimes overly discouraged in relationships. As long as you are respecting each other’s boundaries and not getting too carried away in the spirit of the game, playing games like this should not be an issue. Know yourself and know your partner. Recognize when you or they become agitated. Be kind to one another. If you both play respectfully and responsibly, this will only add fun to your quarantine relationship life.

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