Have you ever experienced a moment in life where you felt as though you were in a glass bowl looking out into the world? Where everyone else seemed to be advancing in certain areas, and you were in stillness. Not ever moving in those directions but floating elsewhere. It’s weird to be a grown adult and never have a real relationship under your belt. To hear friends, co-workers, family members all talk about their past lovers and you sit there in silence because you’ve never experienced that.
Let me start by saying this, there is nothing wrong with not ever having been in a romantic relationship. In today’s world, it seems as though everyone else is finding love and partners without a hitch. Well everyone but you, but that isn’t the case. In fact, in today’s society, there are a large number of single individuals that have yet to have any romantic partnerships and there are multiple reasons. Some of them include how young adults don’t have steady work or income during these tough economic times. Also the push for focusing on independence in yourself in your younger years until you reach a time in your life where you’re ready to start dating. A big factor has been the acceptance of hookup culture and how dominating it has become in showcasing how relationships are now meant to be.
Examples of this include the popularization of dating apps and how the primary focus is meeting each other quickly, getting surface-level conversation, having sex, and then either getting ghosted or proceeding to engage in friends with benefits. This is a string that becomes tangled in the long run. Another aspect that comes into consideration is beauty standards and self-esteem concerning how to see yourself as good enough to be loved. It is a lot to unpack, and at the same time easy to feel discouraged or feel as though you are falling behind in the love department. But it’s not you, and most of all you are not alone. You are enough. You are loved and you are worthy of love. Romantic relationships are not for the faint of heart. Remember, while there are many perks to having a boyfriend or girlfriend, there also comes a range of responsibilities and realities.
While it still sucks not to have experienced romantic love with someone, it is something that no one should not feel guilty or bad about. Your feelings and emotions are valid and understandable but in the end, timing and where you are in life might be interfering factors in why you haven’t met the one. Life works in its own way, and when you’re not looking someone may come your way.
